Daily Archives: April 24, 2015

The Marriage Conversation Episode

You really can’t do a whole lot about revitalizing your marriage until you face the basic premise or premises it’s built upon. We call those premises the marriage paradigm. What we need to do is take the mask off our model of marriage so we can expose its origins and expectations. There’s a new way […]

Wounds into Gold Episode

What happens to us sometimes happens for us. What we call wounds can be the impetus to self realization. I don’t mean to be an ‘airy – fairy’ optimist here. I do mean to encourage you to take a second look at those experiences you perhaps have felt victimized by and see how you can […]

Cognac Episode

Consciousness is partly distilled wisdom. It is the capacity to take one’s own experience together with the experience of others and create a third thing. Consciousness summarizes, focuses, points. We are always distilling miles and miles of information – emotional, intellectual, spiritual, psychological and physical – and using it to make sense of our complex […]

Why Tell Stories in Marriage Episode

The stream of experience, the wealth of learning, the vast resources of memory – all are contained ‘in a nutshell’ in our stories. Stories help us feel our commonality, community, and communicate images we count on to survive. Stories pull us, push us, startle us, perplex us. Life without stories would be flat lined indeed. […]

It Pays to Stop Paying Attention Episode

We are wonderfully made. We have all kinds of radar for picking up information that we’d otherwise miss. We also have a vast capacity for imagining, for creating clues to guide us. Trouble is, most of the time, we aren’t tuned in to the clues or the signals that our hard wiring offers.     […]

Bull in a China Closet Episode

“A prophet is not without honor, except in his own country.” So an ancient saying goes. Those we are closest to often suffer from familiarity in this way: it’s hard to see their gifts, hard to gain perspective, hard too to even hear them – when what they are saying doesn’t fit our habitual way […]