The Marriage Conversation Episode

You really can’t do a whole lot about revitalizing your marriage until you face the basic premise or premises it’s built upon. We call those premises the marriage paradigm. What we need to do is take the mask off our model of marriage so we can expose its origins and expectations. There’s a new way […]

Cognac Episode

Consciousness is partly distilled wisdom. It is the capacity to take one’s own experience together with the experience of others and create a third thing. Consciousness summarizes, focuses, points. We are always distilling miles and miles of information – emotional, intellectual, spiritual, psychological and physical – and using it to make sense of our complex […]

Why Tell Stories in Marriage Episode

The stream of experience, the wealth of learning, the vast resources of memory – all are contained ‘in a nutshell’ in our stories. Stories help us feel our commonality, community, and communicate images we count on to survive. Stories pull us, push us, startle us, perplex us. Life without stories would be flat lined indeed. […]

It Pays to Stop Paying Attention Episode

We are wonderfully made. We have all kinds of radar for picking up information that we’d otherwise miss. We also have a vast capacity for imagining, for creating clues to guide us. Trouble is, most of the time, we aren’t tuned in to the clues or the signals that our hard wiring offers.     […]