Category Archives : Individual Work

Articles about Individual Work


Complexity

Complexity in Marriage Conversation In Marriage and in Politics, simplistic solutions mislead. Most marriages begin with a basic and important fallacy. It is this: ‘we’re in love and everything’s going to be fine.’ This belief misses the necessary and inevitable effects of people changing and growing, of their situation – jobs, health, extended family, community […]


Child Abuse in Pennsylvania

Child Abuse in Pennsylvania in Marriage Conversation Whenever I can I pick up news items that are relevant to the families I am privileged to deal with. This article comes in today’s (Friday the 13th) N.Y. Times. Two judges, in the Scranton area of Pennsylvania, have been arrested for, what else, greed. They shuttled teenagers […]


Child Abuse in Brazil

Child Abuse in Brazil in Marriage Conversation A recent news item in the N.Y. Times (Saturday, March 28, 2009) followed up an earlier report on the abuse of young girls in Brazil. The story centered on a nine year old girl who was impregnated as a result of rape by her stepfather. The girl who […]


Check your Whiner at the Door

Check your Whiner at the Door in Marriage Conversation Marriage holds within it huge possibilities for personal growth – including, but not limited to: increasing your capacity to listen to someone you love; articulating complex feelings / thinkings; shaping your personal vision in partnership with someone else’s vision; learning to embrace conflict. These are all […]


Chain Smoking Bad News

Chain Smoking Bad News in Marriage Conversation Our attraction to trouble may help us survive I, like many Americans, have a “bad news” addiction. I see three articles on the front page of the paper all talking about something good that happened or is happening and I skim them. Give me a story about a […]


Begin it Now Again

Begin it Now Again in Marriage Conversation A company president once told me this: “you know, Stephen, common sense is not all that common.” He was right and if you look around you’ll see a lot that qualifies as not such good sense. Especially at this time of bank failures, rising unemployment and surging national […]


Begin it Now

Begin it Now In Marriage Conversation A company president once told me this: “you know, Stephen, common sense is not all that common.” He was right and if you look around you’ll see a lot that qualifies as not such good sense. Especially at this time of bank failures, rising unemployment and surging national debt. […]


Attention Span Self Help Solutions for a Tired Marriage

Attention Span Self Help Solutions for a Tired Marriage in Marriage Conversation Focusing on what your partner is saying, tuning in, being fully present to the conversation is one of the necessary ‘arts’ of intimate connecting.. Have you ever walked away from someone and then realized they weren’t finished with what they were saying? Has […]


Why Twitter – Why Not

Why Twitter – Why Not in Marriage Conversation There is a big messy challenge for anyone who has an idea and wants the world to know about it. Not that the world necessarily needs the idea. Just a few people really do, or so it seems. But a good idea sparks a great deal of […]


What Can You Say After You Say Im Sorry

What Can You Say After You Say Im Sorry in Marriage Conversation Re-imagining Marriage How can you prove that you are sincere? What do you do when someone you love blames you? How can you take a moment of truth and let it change you? These lyrics from 40 or 50 years ago, capture something […]