Category Archives : Family


Fathers and Sons Episode

The mystery, meaning, and deep power that is possible between fathers and sons is often missed. We perhaps are lulled by the struggles of living or seduced into creating a version of each other that most times isn’t true. Whatever the case, finding a pathway to relationship is rich in possibility.         […]


Whining Episode

Need awareness is perhaps the most critical component of healthy relating. It’s hard to allow yourself to be aware of your own needs when your life has been spent in the presence of adults who applaud need denial. “What a great player!” I heard a youthful soccer coach say. “He played the entire second half […]


Stop Look Listen Episode

It’s easy to let the world around you control your focus. It doesn’t take much effort to be a stooge of the ‘entertainment culture.’ Being entertained, distracted, pulled in directions others want you to go makes you lazy, relationally speaking. You can reclaim your focus and rebirth your relationship simply by creating your own purposeful […]


Secrets Episode

The unfinished business you carry around can be like a cancer in your body. Secrets, I’m not talking here about an individual’s right to private thoughts, can be toxic even lethal. Take a look at what you’re protecting and why. You may find a new path to intimate connections hidden in the very secrets you […]


Discovering Who you Are Episode

It’s tempting to live in the future and it’s tempting as well to live in the past. All of us can live somewhere where we are not presently living or live with someone who is not our partner. This fundamental human talent causes a great deal of confusion. Tolle, in the Power of Now, reminds […]


The Marriage Conversation Episode

You really can’t do a whole lot about revitalizing your marriage until you face the basic premise or premises it’s built upon. We call those premises the marriage paradigm. What we need to do is take the mask off our model of marriage so we can expose its origins and expectations. There’s a new way […]


Why Tell Stories in Marriage Episode

The stream of experience, the wealth of learning, the vast resources of memory – all are contained ‘in a nutshell’ in our stories. Stories help us feel our commonality, community, and communicate images we count on to survive. Stories pull us, push us, startle us, perplex us. Life without stories would be flat lined indeed. […]


Seeing is Believing Episode

We look at the world the way we always have. A new perspective – a really fresh look – is hard to come by. Yet, relationship viability requires this competency. We must be able to re-contextualize, to re- imagine chronic challenges if we are to have any possibility of moving on and through them. To […]