Category Archives : What is Marriage

Articles about what a marriage is


The Million Dollar Smile

The blinding darkness of assumptions The Million Dollar Smile in Marriage Conversation: He walked briskly up to me hand extended “I know you from somewhere…eh, the country club?” “I doubt it” I said as I limply shook his hand. We were standing around at a Chamber mixer on a hot southern California July evening. I […]


Starting Fresh Claiming a new Life within Marriage

Starting Fresh Claiming a new Life within Marriage on Marriage Conversation: Why do many marriages veer towards marginal when the love that started the process seemed so promising? How is it that many people wake up three or four years into marriage wondering why they married in the first place? Many marriages ‘marginalize’ their love. […]


So Busy Parenting we Forget to Love and Cherish our Children

So Busy Parenting we Forget to Love and Cherish our Children In Marriage Conversation: Parenting is way of life. It demands consistent consciousness and attentiveness. There’s safety, health, learning, relationships, play – all needing our guidance and focus. We want a lot for these little people who are on the way to taking their place […]


She Doesn’t Get It – Time Magazine’s Featured Article on Marriage

She Doesn’t Get It- Time Magazine’s Featured Article on Marriage – Marriage Conversation: Caitlin Flanagan’s featured piece in Time Magazine (July 13th) is a harangue on men – shaming, blaming, superior, posturing – but misses ‘what’s missing’ in marriage. Ms Flanagan’s piece is from the old school. You may think she’d grown up with Cotton […]


Safety In Marriage

Safety in Marriage in Marriage Conversation: In order for a marriage to function as a healthy marriage there is a big need for safety. We call good marriages ‘learning communities’ because healthy marriages make each partner (and all the children) smarter. Dysfunctional marriages (we call them ‘marginal’) tend to make the partners crazier or perhaps […]


Mobile Home

Mobile Home in Marriage Conversation: We’ve studied marriage for a long long time but became convinced that a new model of marriage was needed after six years of dating didn’t get us much closer to ‘closing the deal.’ Together, facing chronic conflict and trying to communicate using many of the phrases and ideas we grew […]


Marriage – Living on the Edge

Living on The Edge in Marriage Conversation: A young thirty something businessman and I were talking about his business and the fact that it ‘flat lines,’ ‘doesn’t grow’ and that inflation drives his small profit margin down each year. We got around to talking strategy and I began talking about attitude. “You’ve got to find […]


Marriage What’s Up Doc

Marriage Whats Up Doc in Marriage Conversation: We have a teenage daughter who is delightful, energetic and responsible. That is, she responds to a voice within her that listens to a beat I can’t quite hear. I have my own (inner) voices and although I am not quite schizophrenic yet, I do hear voices from […]


Marriage The Unspoken Realities

Marriage The Unspoken Realities in Marriage Conversation: It’s not what you talk about but what you avoid talking about that will make your marriage marginal. The vulnerability of men and boys and the painful consequences of isolation were vividly captured this week as we all read the Penn State story. A world where invulnerability is […]