Tag Archives : Marriage Conversation


Another Thing About Marriage

Another thing about Marriage in Marriage Conversation is to take full responsibility for your own happiness is one essential basis for successful partnering. What that means is this: you no longer get to use your partner as the scapegoat for what you lack. You no longer get to blame her for the coldness you learned […]


The Million Dollar Smile

The blinding darkness of assumptions The Million Dollar Smile in Marriage Conversation: He walked briskly up to me hand extended “I know you from somewhere…eh, the country club?” “I doubt it” I said as I limply shook his hand. We were standing around at a Chamber mixer on a hot southern California July evening. I […]


The Four Horsemen of Irresolvable Conflict

The Four Horseman of Irresolvable Conflict in Marriage Conversation: We speak of conflict as a golden road to intimate connection. It can also be the catalyst for ‘irreconcilable differences.’ Conflict is a natural consequence of individuals growing and changing. Conflict is our noticing that something’s different, something’s not quite ‘right,’ something’s changed. If we think […]


Useful Links

Here are some links to useful resources in Marriage Conversation: Too tired for sex? Increase sex drive, increase sexual arousal. Laurie Mintz’s latest book “A Tired Women’s Guide to Passionate Sex” has been well received by couples and psychologists alike, and has been shown in research to increase sex drive and arousal in women who read […]


Taking off the Mask

Taking off the Mask in Marriage Conversation: The single most difficult task any professional helper who is dealing with a marriage that has lost its bearings is this: there is an immediate need to ‘take off the masks’ that each individual wears. Necessarily so. Why? Masks are created to meet the expectations of the world […]


Starting Fresh Claiming a new Life within Marriage

Starting Fresh Claiming a new Life within Marriage on Marriage Conversation: Why do many marriages veer towards marginal when the love that started the process seemed so promising? How is it that many people wake up three or four years into marriage wondering why they married in the first place? Many marriages ‘marginalize’ their love. […]


So Busy Parenting we Forget to Love and Cherish our Children

So Busy Parenting we Forget to Love and Cherish our Children In Marriage Conversation: Parenting is way of life. It demands consistent consciousness and attentiveness. There’s safety, health, learning, relationships, play – all needing our guidance and focus. We want a lot for these little people who are on the way to taking their place […]


She Doesn’t Get It – Time Magazine’s Featured Article on Marriage

She Doesn’t Get It- Time Magazine’s Featured Article on Marriage – Marriage Conversation: Caitlin Flanagan’s featured piece in Time Magazine (July 13th) is a harangue on men – shaming, blaming, superior, posturing – but misses ‘what’s missing’ in marriage. Ms Flanagan’s piece is from the old school. You may think she’d grown up with Cotton […]


Time

Shame On You

Shame On You on Marriage Conversation: The May 30, 2011 cover of Time Magazine had this headline “Sex, Lies, Arrogance: What Makes Powerful Men Act like pigs?”            This title neatly catches an old worn out paradigm – a Puritan thought police kind of thing- that reflects attitudes of shaming, blaming, self righteousness […]