Freud said that ‘dreams are the royal road to consciousness.’ In a heavily dunned entertainment culture where we live too often on sound bites, dreams are mostly ignored, shoved to the periphery [...]
The mystery, meaning, and deep power that is possible between fathers and sons is often missed. We perhaps are lulled by the struggles of living or seduced into creating a version of each other [...]
Need awareness is perhaps the most critical component of healthy relating. It’s hard to allow yourself to be aware of your own needs when your life has been spent in the presence of adults who [...]
It’s easy to let the world around you control your focus. It doesn’t take much effort to be a stooge of the ‘entertainment culture.’ Being entertained, distracted, pulled in directions others [...]
That which is unaddressed, avoided or denied can cause great havoc in your relationship and set a mood – resentment – that will poison even your best efforts at loving. Of course you must be [...]
The unfinished business you carry around can be like a cancer in your body. Secrets, I’m not talking here about an individual’s right to private thoughts, can be toxic even lethal. Take a look at [...]
We make much, in American dialogue about marriage, of the need for faithfulness. “Married 27 years and never been unfaithful.” There is another dimension to faithfulness that we don’t so often [...]
If your life together is bland and joyless. If your conversations drift along with no energy, if you often feel resentful, this little story is for you.
Surrender used in the way we usually use it, has a negative connotation. “I give up,” or “I gave in.” There is a powerful need for surrender in relationships. It has to do [...]
It’s tempting to live in the future and it’s tempting as well to live in the past. All of us can live somewhere where we are not presently living or live with someone who is not our partner. This [...]